By insolence the heedless make strife, but wisdom is with those who take advice. (Proverbs 13:10)
Emotional Intelligence is the relatively new way of evaluating overall intellect. In previous devotions I have mentioned the blessing of Emotional Intelligence and the way it reflects Biblical wisdom. Nick Wagnall addresses the role of feelings in one’s overall Emotional Intelligence. Wignall addresses the means of nurturing our Emotional Intelligence in his article, “4 Questions that Will Improve Your Emotional Intelligence.”
First, put feelings in their place. Wignall calls us to ask, “What are the facts?” When facts and feelings are at odds, feelings are often out of control. Wignall points out, “Don’t ignore your situation just because your mind is screaming at you.” Learning self-control when your mind is screaming is a first step in experiencing Emotional Intelligence.
Second, Wignall creates a simile worthy of consideration. He says, “Learn to see your emotions like lights on your car’s dashboard.” He continues, “Imagine what would happen if, the next time your low-fuel light went off and made you feel uncomfortable, you stuck a piece of tape over it?” Only when you rip the tape off and take it to the repair shop, will your car function well again. Responding to our emotional lights, recognizing what our emotions mean helps us address them before they rule us.
Wignall quotes Sabaa Tahir’s wisdom, “Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don’t lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier.” Finally, Wignall affirms, “What’s my story?” When we learn our story, we learn about our emotions and what triggers them. When we learn the triggers, we are able to face them with courage and insight. Today, start reflecting your story, and watch your Emotional Intelligence grow to Mental Mensa levels!