Giving Oneself Advice

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:10)

What would I say to my 25-year-old self right after ordination? After I’ve answered that question, the second focus I’d consider is what would my 85-year-old self say to me at 60. First, I’d tell my 25-year-old self, “God will guide you through joys and some tough challenges, but you do not need to fear, the Spirit will instruct you and bring quality people to your side along the way.” I am not unique. Everyone who reads this devotion is guided through life’s minefields with care, learning, and self-forgiveness. My older self would tell my present self that all that mattered was how much I cared for and loved others. I will barely remember life's challenges and disappointments. What matters at life’s late stage are the relationships.

The Second issue I would address with my 25-and 60-year-old self is the need to embrace solitude. 60-year-old me would love to tell my younger me that meditation should have been a priority from day one. Meditation would have calmed your mind and created a calmer environment for those around you. God speaks through your mind; you can listen closer when relaxed and focused. Your older self will thank you for not putting off meditation one minute longer.

Finally, my 85-and-60-year-old selves will reassure young me that you were correct to focus on your plan. Even in my childhood, I always made plans for my future. Sometimes people thought I was shooting beyond my ability or my station. The younger me would have enjoyed the ride of life more if I knew most of my plans were worthy of my time and I could achieve them. I would also let the younger me know that not all work achievements were as crucial as the time spent with my family and God.

Now it is your turn. What would you presently say to your younger self? What would your older self say to you right now? Focus mainly on the positives. Do not forget that this exercise is meant to nurture your confidence and courage for the future. Learning from mistakes should not drag you down. On the contrary, affirming your learnings and actions will provide new emotional and spiritual maturity. Ask the tough questions and make new plans based on your evaluation. God will bless your process along the way.