From Pain to Transformation
Written by Rev. Dr. Scott Paczkowski
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”
Self-help books and articles push change at every turn. If we are not changing positively, we are accused of self-sabotage. The way to overcome complacency is not to deride ourselves but to learn why our brain is adverse to transformation. In his book How We Change, Nathan Agin provides a provocative answer that helps propel us forward. Agin states, “Staying the same protects you from awareness of your aloneness and sole accountability for your own life.” Attempting to limit or stop change is often due to unresolved pain in our lives. Our brain addresses pain by preventing life's progress. The brain doesn’t intend to self-sabotage but is trying to protect us from further pain.
Agin continues, “Staying the same protects you from the unknown.” Our brain has determined that pain occurs when we face the unknown. Therefore, stop change, and the unknown will not be an issue; the situation is resolved! If it were only that easy. While the brain is trying to fix the problem, it creates unintended consequences. Our brain’s commitment to stopping change affirms the pain, protects us from potential pain from others, and does not allow change within ourselves. Who knew our brains, with the best intention, could hurt us.
When we realize pain is part of life and can guide us in new directions, the brain loosens up and allows us to consider the possibility of change. The more we face our pain, name it, and realize other factors create painful situations, the more we become open to transformation. Addressing pain is essential because life without change leaves little room for the Holy Spirit to bring guidance and support.
Today, prayerfully consider the reasons why you are reticent about making change. Why might your brain be stopping you? What pain is still disrupting your confidence? As you answer these questions, ask God for the wisdom and courage to face the pain that is consciously or subconsciously forcing your brain to attempt to protect you. Finally, be gentle with yourself through this process. Since your brain is in protection mode, you feel discomfort and stress; adding to it will not be beneficial. Instead, ask the Holy Spirit to intercede, first by reminding you of God’s love and acceptance, then for the faith to look the pain squarely in the eye and address it. When you take these steps, divine transformation, healing, and wholeness will be yours. The change will feel like a blessing rather than something to be feared.
