The Dark Side of Regret
For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation and brings no regret, but worldly grief produces death. (2 Corinthians 7:10)
The word “regret” has always been a challenge for me. I have many things that I have the right to regret, looking back on my life. Yet, I find myself experiencing many “regrets” that I shouldn’t take responsibility for feeling. Too many times I’ve taken on regrets that were probably not mine to carry. I have enough of my own, why am I carrying others as well?
To provide an example, while my mother was a wonderful person, the last years of my mother’s life, she made it clear she wished I’d have been in a profession that made more money. She was frustrated that I couldn’t take the family on trips, when we were paying for our daughter’s college. She made comparisons with what her friends’ children were providing their parents. This was a regret I refused to accept. I love being a minister and feel blessed to have been called by God to the ministry. Even more importantly, God has blessed my family abundantly. We were able to provide our daughter a good home, an education, good healthcare, enough food, good clothes, etc. I am humbled by the abundance we’ve had in our lives.
We all have enough regret in our lives that we’ve earned, for one reason or another. With God’s help, work through those regrets so they do not cripple you spiritually or emotionally. We all have enough regret, without taking on the regret others would like to place at our feet. Others would have us feeling regret for their issues. None of us are so emotionally and spiritually healthy, that we can take on extra, unearned regret. Think through your emotions and memories. What regrets are swimming around in your heart, that aren’t yours to regret? Evicting those unearned regrets from your mind will be incredibly freeing and renewing. Start today!