"The sacrifice acceptable to God is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise." (Psalm 51:17)
This passage has provided a great deal of comfort, but has also been misinterpreted far too often. By a "broken spirit," the psalmist is not talking about destroying a person's self-worth. The passage speaks of God expecting our spirit being broken in such a way that we need God in order to be fully whole beings.
If our spirit isn't broken, we run without direction or purpose. Like a horse that needs to be broken for it to be useful, so is our spirit to be broken that we might be useful, and guided by the will of God.
You might bristle at the idea of being guided, as if with a bit in our mouth. You may not relish the thought of loosing one's freedom, by being directed by God. But, God's direction is what brings wholeness, meaning, and eternal life to our lives. Without God's bit directing us, we wander, directionless and wasting the life God created for us.
Let God break the arrogance and the selfishness in you. Allow God's Spirit to replace your broken spirit. Then, prayerfully listen for God, because God is going to tug on your bit, and direct you in special and life-transforming ways. Begin today by offering God your entire life, and God will direct your conscience in the days, weeks, and months to come.